Learn how to increase confidence so you could achieve a goal you have set, decrease stress, and optimize your own happiness.

"Trust yourself. You know more than you think you do."
Benjamin Spock, writer of 'Baby and Child Care', 1977

If you wish to improve self-confidence you might want to know that it has so much to do with attitude aside from ability.

I've known a lot of people who, while they lacked skill in a particular field, totally 'oozed' confidence! I'm not talking about bragging about how superior they are at tennis, or singing, or public speaking - when actually they're not. I'm speaking about feeling okay about not being skilled in these fields and doing them anyway!

A few things are just not essential enough to fret about - but we do just the same and create pointless anxiety for ourselves. Regardless of whether you fall over attempting to ice-skate, make a hash of cooking, be unsuccessful at DIY or just fear that you may not be good at using a PC if you tried it, so you don't - does it actually matter?

Of course there are certain things which are essential! Being great at your career is one of them; creating good relationships is another. In these cases you must find a few strategies to aid you.

What building selfconfidence boils right down to is getting rid of that voice within your brain that tells you that you will not succeed if you try, that you're no good at this type of thing, that you'll make a fool of yourself - or whatever the specific message is that rocks your confidence.

These messages don't necessarily tell the truth:

They may have been told to you, in the past, by other people who had their own agenda. Generally people will say things to put you down so they will feel better about themselves!

They may have been your own interpretation of what somebody said. Often what we hear is not what is meant, thus when I say "You're not very good at sports activities", you may hear that as a criticism or someone saying "You're a failure!"

They may be primarily based on a unique experience you had which prompted you to jot down that message within your head yourself. Let's say you tried creating a bookcase once but it really didn't look very good when you finished it. Therefore, in your head you believe you're no good at woodwork and will never try again. However you could have acknowledged that this wasn't too bad for your initial try and that you'd perhaps improve with experience.

Your attitude is the factor that will carry you to success, or defeat you before you even begin.

When you don't think you are able to do it - odds are very high that you won't. And when you believe all the detrimental messages from the past, you might as well construct a brick wall between you and your desired goals. (And don't forget, you fail 100% of the opportunities you don't even go for!)

But when you believe you could do it, if you can visualise yourself in your mind doing it, chances are very strong that you will be successful!

There's a saying: "Change the way in which you look at things and the things you look at would change." (The half full - half empty glass is an example of this!)

However you do not need to do this on your own, and confidence coaching would allow you to to find other ways of viewing things. Then the coach will help you to identify your destructive beliefs and overcome those brick walls that stand between you and your objectives. Increasing your confidence will really help you to achieve what you want from life.